When you’re trying to conceive Mother’s Day is one of those bittersweet days. There are reminders everywhere about the gap in your life, how this is another year without a child of your own. People talk about what they have planned. Colleagues may reminisce about previous Mother’s Day gifts from school fetes and the like. It is impossible to avoid.
So here are a couple of tips to help you be your best, or at least survive with as little pain as possible.
1) Focus on your own mum or motherly figure in your life. Reflect with appreciation on how their efforts and love have helped make you the person you are today. Do something special for them that you can share together.
2) Distract yourself. Find something that takes your full attention. It doesn’t have to be anything remotely related to Mother’s Day. You may want to take a drive to the country or sea. You may want to go and play paintball!! It doesn’t matter what you do, try to find something that takes your full attention and is fun!
3) Reassess your headspace. Identify the negative thoughts that are swimming around in a loop in your head. Notice when they start to take shape. Notice any themes they may have. Remember that not being a mum now doesn’t mean never.
4) Write a gratitude list. Make a cup of tea, find a nice comfortable place to curl up with a pen and paper, and write your list. Once you’ve gotten past being grateful for your partner, family, friends, job, house, and health, search further. Look for what you might be grateful for just today. Look at the beauty that surrounds you. Think about the safety in which you move about your city. Look for all the little things in your world that make your life wonderful. You may like to make a habit of sitting at the end of each day and writing a gratitude list – 3 things today to be grateful for.
5) If all else fails – Ice-cream and Netflix!!!!